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10 More Ways to Get (...or Stay) Happy! ©

10 More Ways to Get (...or Stay) Happy! ©
by Susie Mantell, award-winning author of the soothing relaxation CD, "Your Present: A Half-Hour of Peace"

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Dear Friends at,

"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner." (Colette)

Hooked on a Feeling

Some people really are happy. They may work two jobs, or be physically challenged, or never have left their hometowns. Yet every day they wake and wonder what they can do to make this a great day and...It is! Others won't ever know the satisfaction of contentment. They are hooked on stress. It fuels them--makes them feel alive. If there is no crisis, they will "what-if" until that old familiar adrenaline kicks in. I often think about how little it takes to be Happy...or Miserable. Maybe there is a Gratitude gene. The pursuit of Pleasure, and avoidance of Pain, are widely-accepted as primary motivators among us animals. But happiness is personally defined. It is a matter of what we value most. Life is made of moments. Even on very tense days, there will be nice moments too--if we remember to look.

"Pleasure is very seldom found where it is sought. Our brightest blazes are commonly kindled by unexpected sparks."
(Samuel Johnson)

I especially love days when I don't need my watch and time doesn't matter. An afternoon can unfold so deliciously slowly there seems to be twice as much of it. These, and periods of creativity, or intense purpose, are some of our most pleasurable, and happiest. When Joan Frank, author of, "Instant Guts," returned from working with women in the slums of Bombay, she said, " Even though one wouldn't call my work there pleasurable, it made me terrifically happy because it had such meaning for me. Happiness comes from a different internal place. Doing what comes slowly and with difficulty may not bring immediate pleasure, but it can bring happiness, knowing that you are on a path toward something."

"This is my Depressed stance. The worst thing you can do is straighten up and hold your head high because then you'll start to feel better. If you"re going to get any joy out of being depressed, you've got to stand like this."
(Charlie Brown)

"Don't Worry. Be Happy,"
(Bobby McFerrin)

1. Make a list of people you think are happy, and why. (Not blissed-out or ecstatic which are delightful, if fleeting. . .just content.)
2. Ask 10 friends, strangers, or co-workers, what Inner Peace is for them. We can learn a lot by understanding how others find peace.

10 Ways to Get (...or Stay) Happy

"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. "
(Abraham Lincoln)

1. List 100 things that make you happy. (Yup.100.) Focusing on what makes us happy has a way of, well, making us happy!
2. Starving for Stress-Relief? Help yourself to pleasurable exercise, mindful breathing and meditation, gentle touch, healthy nutrition, journaling and laughter. Enjoy creative expression, personally meaningful spiritual practice, healthy relationships and play.
3. Under Pressure? Blow Off Steam. Call a friend you trust. Ask if you may please whine for 3 minutes. (Set timer.) Switch. Listen. Your release, plus refocusing on someone else, create precious breathing space in a tense day.
4. Whenever possible, create meaning in your predicament. Child home with a cold? Play a game with him. Organize 1 closet and donate to a shelter.
5. Cranky? Smiling sends an internal message that all is well. ("I MUST be okay--I'm smiling.") Close your eyes, picturing you, smiling. Just a little non-committal half-smile is fine.
6. Practice Mindfulness. Release injuries of the past, worries for the future. Be In This Moment.
7. Release Anger, Envy & Resentment. Each is a white-hot coal wehold, intending to throw at someone. But they do not really leave our hand.
8. Forgive. Forgiveness is something we do as much for our own healing as for others. It is not acceptance of abuse, but release of an action"s affect on you, knowing it came out of someone else"s pain, fear, emotional illness or poor judgment.
9. Create! Cook, paint, build, write, garden, knit. . .
10. Need More Ways to Feel Good? See, "70 Ways to Feel Really Good...FAST!"

The dot.calm Corner: Places to Go if You'd Like to Know. . .

"Sometimes, even music cannot substitute for tears."
(Paul Simon)

Coping with the Stress of Global Events

Men & Depression: Symptoms of depression. Real men share their experiences in the National Institute of Mental Health Online Brochure.

Men are more likely to suffer in silence.

Soldiers Home from Deployment --Basic Training in Resuming Life: For soldiers and their families, the burdens and sacrifices of deployment go far beyond fighting overseas, or waiting at home.

More Hope for Depression

You Gotta Laugh: Wonders of the World

1. When I say: A penny for your thoughts. . .and you put your two cents in, what happens to the other penny?
2. What hair color do they put on the driver"s licenses of bald men?
3. Why didn't Noah just swat those two mosquitoes?
4. Why do croutons come in airtight packages? It"s just stale bread to begin with.
5. Whatever happened to Preparations A through G?
6. If Fed Ex and UPS were to merge, would they call the resulting company FedUP?
7. Do Lipton employees take coffee breaks?
8. How come no one ever says, "It"s only a game" when their team is winning?

Closing Thought. . . The Fence (anonymous)

A little boy had a terrible temper. His dad gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back fence. The first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into that fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily diminished. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails. Finally, a day came when the boy didn't lash out even once. His father suggested the boy begin to pull out one nail for each day that he was able to contain his temper. Weeks passed and at last, all the nails were gone. The father led his son by the hand to the fence. "You have done well, my son and I am proud of you. But look at the holes that remain. When we say things in anger, they may leave a scar just like this one. No matter how many times we say we are sorry, the wounds remain. Knowing this, you need not ever risk injuring another with an unkind word.

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Until next time, I wish you both pleasure and happiness, good news, good friends,
. . .and as always, above all, peace,


National stress-relief expert Susie Mantell's soothing, award-winning relaxation CD, "Your Present: A Half-Hour of Peace" is physician-recommended to relieve Stress & Sleeplessness, Pain, Depression, Addiction rRecovery and PTSD. Featured in The Los Angeles Times, NBC,ABC -TV, Billboard, Navy-Marine Corps Relief Services, Memorial Sloan-Kettering, and The American Pain Society, listeners include The Mayo Clinic, U.S. V.A. facilities, Canyon Ranch (BEST SPA,") F.F.S.C.'s and MWR's. Customizing programs for American Express, Remington, The Arthritis Foundation, The National Conference on Loss, and The Coca-Cola Company , her techniques are found in Cosmopolitan, McCalls, WebMD and syndicated press. Fine more Free Stress-Relief Tips or Order "Your Present: A Half-Hour of Peace" at: (SPECIAL: ORDER 5--GET 1 FREE!)
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